Thursday, February 11, 2010

What's your opinion of TMI?

The coveted double-nap. It is happening here right now--for how long, I don't know.

I woke up this morning to sunshine on my pillow and the brilliant slate blue eyes of Ivey.


(Sometimes they are slate. Sometimes they are more like frosty blueberry. I could never, ever capture them in a picture, but I am a crappy photographer.)

It was 9:00 AM, because Suzi spent the night at Grandma and Grandpa's and Jordan got up to hold and rock our crazy baby until she went back to sleep. I have a cold. It's a bad this-side-works-but-this-side-doesn't kind of cold, and sometimes neither side works and I can't sleep when that happens. I owe Jordan a serious nap.

Anyway, I've been struggling with the issue of how much info is TMI on my blog. Some of the most important things people have to say might fall into that category of is this okay to post or not? I know I've read some incredibly personal things on other people's blogs, particularly regarding pregnancy and childbirth, which have guided me in my own journey. I'm glad they posted them. But should I? I don't mean things like address and phone number, but rather anecdotal, personal information which some would argue should be kept private. Writing is my preferred method of communication. The words flow here in a way they usually don't in person. Perhaps this is why it's tempting for me to say things that don't necessarily belong on a public blog.

If you post personal stuff (detailed birth stories, intimate descriptions of your everyday life, your innermost thoughts), why do you do it? If you don't, why not? Where do you draw the line on things you're not willing to share?

3 comments:

Amy @ Raising Arrows said...

Oooo, this is a tough one!

I don't share everything b/c there are some things I don't care to open myself up to criticism with.

I like people being real and most people expect that from my blog. I try to be the right mix of real & encouraging.

Amber said...

I like to be real. However, I don't like to hurt people's feelings, or make my mother uncomfortable, so that is my metric. I am willing to share info about others that I would be comfortable with someone else sharing about me. I am willing to share my own thoughts and feelings, insofar as they don't infringe on others, or veer into the territory that would require me to issue a disclaimer for my mother-in-law's benefit. Sometimes I wish I were more free to say certain things, but the people in my life have to come before the blog.

Rissa said...

I've been meaning to comment on this for several days - sorry it took me a while!

First of all, I definitely fluctuate between personal and totally not personal. Ultimately, I'm comfortable sharing my experiences and my inner thoughts when I know it will either help me to deal with my issues by putting them out there, benefit others by seeing someone share about things they may also be dealing with, and/or it gives me a creative outlet. I don't really have rules for myself, per se, but I definitely don't talk negatively about other people (I would *never* berate my husband) or talk about something that would embarrass someone. I'm okay with being controversial, to a point, if I'm keeping myself as the focus instead of implying that everyone should do exactly as I do (even if I really think they should ;).
I would love to read more about you and your life and your thoughts and your experiences. I'm always happy to see a new Babyfingers post pop up in my reader! :)